Relationship Support

Introduction


Everyone has arguments, and everyone disagrees with their partners, family members and others close to them from time to time.

We all do things at times that we regret, and which cause unhappiness to those we care about. It only starts to become a problem when conflict is frequent, intense and not resolved well.

If you are worried about your relationships, it is important to reach out for help, support or look for ways to self-help.

Women’s Aid has produced a Recognising Domestic Abuse Questionnaire that may help you to understand whether you are suffering domestic abuse or relationship conflict.

Are you in immediate danger?

If you, or someone you know, are in immediate danger, call 999 straight away and ask for the police. If it is not safe for you to speak the police can still help you by using their ‘Silent Solution’. Simply stay silent and press 55 when prompted. For non-emergencies call 101

Domestic Abuse


Domestic abuse can take many forms. If you feel you are being controlled, threatened or physically assaulted by someone you live with (or used to live with) that is domestic abuse.

It is not always easy to talk about domestic abuse or to know what you want to happen. You may feel frightened, ashamed, confused and guilty.

All of that is understandable. It can happen to anyone and any kind of relationship. But you have a right to live free from fear and are not to blame for someone else’s violence and abuse

Where to get help

There is a range of domestic violence and abuse services that might be able to help you, including:

Restart – South Tyneside domestic abuse service

The Domestic Abuse Service, Restart, provides confidential, non-judgemental support to those who are experiencing all forms of Domestic Abuse and are living and working in the Borough of South Tyneside.

The service allows victims and their families to live in safety. This is offered through:

  • One-to-one confidential, non-judgmental, independent support
  • Risk assessment, risk management and safety planning
  • Specialist independent gender-based violence advocacy (IGVA) to support those at risk of serious harm
  • A specialist service for young children who have witnessed or directly experienced domestic abuse
  • Group support
  • Perpetrator Intervention Programme
  • Information and support about options

You can access the service by calling 07977 595910 or emailing domesticabusereferrals@southtyneside.gov.uk

Some other services that might be able to help you, include:

Places for People (South Tyneside Women’s Aid) Women’s Refuge

Impact Family Services

Independent Domestic Violence Advisers (IVDA)

Police

The police can take action against an abuser and give advice on home security and other matters. In an emergency ring 999, at other times ring 101 and ask for the crime desk or visit www.northumbria.police.uk

Northumbria Victim Services
Support and advice to victims of crime throughout Northumbria. Telephone 0800 011 3116 or visit nvws.northumbria.police.uk

Relationship Support


Face-to-face courses

Parenting when Separated (PWS)

A group session suitable for parents who are preparing for, going through or have gone through a separation or divorce.

Objectives:

  • Solving co-parenting problems in a positive way that focuses on the needs of children
  • Coping with the emotional impact of separation and learning stress management
  • Helping children to cope with the impact of separation
  • How to communicate well with each other and with children

Arguing Well as a Couple (AWaC)

A 6-session guided programme that supports parents who are together to improve their relationship.

Sessions are for all kinds of couples such as same sex couples, families with adopted children, families where there is a blend of cultures or religions.

Objectives

  • Understanding why arguments happen
  • How to communicate in a helpful way
  • Support to resolve issues, rather than relying on others for solutions
  • Practice resilience tools for the future to resolve any difficulties you might face.

How to access

If you think a face-to-face course could support you, talk to a professional such as a:

  • Teacher
  • Health Visitor
  • Support Worker

You can ask them to complete a Request for Service (RFS) or you can call 0191 424 6210 and a member of staff can complete the RFS on your behalf.